All too often our sex-ed conversations get bogged down in whether to stress abstinence as the safest (or only) option for teens. But an early, healthy understanding of sexuality can shape a person in ways that are significant and lifelong.
“Healthy sexuality,” the statement reads, “includes the capacity to promote and preserve significant interpersonal relationships, value one’s body and personal health, interact with both sexes in respectful and appropriate ways and express affection, love, and intimacy in ways consistent with one’s own values, sexual preferences, and abilities.”That’s hard to cover in 40 seconds. It’s also pretty hard to Google.
Ideally, a pediatrician is just one of several respected adults talking to a kid about healthy sexuality.
Read more here.
…Yet when they are immunized against this deeper emotional honesty, the results have far-reaching, often devastating consequences.
Despite the emergence of the metrosexual and an increase in stay-at-home dads, tough-guy stereotypes die hard. As men continue to fall behind women in college, while outpacing them four to one in the suicide rate, some colleges are waking up to the fact that men may need to be taught to think beyond their own stereotypes.
…By the time many young men do reach college, a deep-seated gender stereotype has taken root that feeds into the stories they have heard about themselves as learners. Better to earn your Man Card than to succeed like a girl, all in the name of constantly having to prove an identity to yourself and others.
Read the full article here at NYT.
This is a prayer from Debbie Pearlman’s Flames to Heaven: New Psalms for Healing & Praise. It’s a wonderful collection of psalms which Pearlman translates for our use, especially around themes of healing and celebration. This is number one hundred twenty-two.
I am trying, Life-Arranger, I am trying
To live with uncertainties.
I am trying to yield control,
To listen for the calm beneath.
My task nearly done, I am trying to trust
My nurturing and modeling
Have grown a complete person
Ready to enter the next territory.
All my caring words, instructions
Repeated and reworded are no armor.
Only faith in Your kindness
Will secure each tomorrow.
Letting go my protecting hug,
Releasing my shielding body,
I relax. And then I feel You.
You alone must be the Shield about us.
Only to be whole and to be happy.
Only to be well-loved and productive.
Giving and friendly, untroubled by terrors.
Parents’ sighs rise to You.