To follow is my interview with Mark Washington. Mark is my brother, and though he isn’t the first father I knew (our dad is), I thought it’d be fun to have him be my first interviewee on the blog. He’s a man of few words. Just like our father. My sense is that Mark’s interview will be the most succinct. Mark’s two daugthers, Laila and London, two out of three of my nieces, are pictured to the left.
FF: Describe your family.
MW: My family are comedians, they always keep me laughing.
FF: How has fatherhood changed you?
MW: Fatherhood has changed me where I’m more giving then I was. It has also taught me that it’s not all about me anymore. My children come first before my needs and wants.
FF: Have you made any mistakes as a dad? If you’re not a liar, name one and talk about what it meant to you.
MW: One of the biggest mistakes that I have made was to start taking Laila to the beauty shop at the age of four. Now she expects it every two weeks. LOL. No, but really sometimes I don’t choose my words carefully and, sooner or later, I hear them echoed around the house.
FF: What’s the most helpful advice you heard when you were becoming a father or as you’ve been a father?
MW: The best advice I’ve heard is to enjoy the younger years with them because when they become teenagers, I will start to feel the gap.
FF: How do you attend to your relationship with your children’s mother? It’s changed over time. How so?
MW: Well, we hear each other out, and then we discuss what logic will work. With any relationship it’s all about communication.
FF: What surprises are there along the way for parents? What do you wish you were told to expect?
MW: I can’t really think of one, but my children never cease to amaze me. I mean just when you thought you heard or seen it all, here’s another surprise. And part two of that question is, how expensive they can be. I mean I’ve been told that, but no one ever stressed it! LOL.
FF: What is one recent memory you made with your child?
MW: Last night I was playing shouting music off You Tube and the little one (London) came and got Laila and I. She said “I’m about to shout,” and we all started shouting while holding hands. It was too funny!
I appreciate Mark for his answers. Since this is the beginning of a series–we’ll have a couple interviews per month on the blog–I invite you to participate. If you are a father and would like to be interviewed, or if you know one who would, leave a comment with your email address.